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Mothers Spend More Time With Infants Boy, Talks More With Their Sons Whenever They Are Unhappy With The Father/Partners: Research

by Anita Ogona

Mothers who are unhappy with the fathers of their children and male partners, tend to spend more time talking to their infants especially if the child is a boy.

A new study conducted by University of Cambridge examined the relationship between the quality of couple’s relationship and parent-infant talk reveals that mothers talk with the boy child more whenever she is unhappy with her partner.

Researchers from the Centre for Family Research at the University of Cambridge studied 93 first-time, heterosexual parents and their interactions with their infants. The team asked parents about the quality of their couple relationship and how satisfied they were and then gave the infants at age seven months a wearable ‘talk pedometer’ that recorded naturalistic parent-infant talk for a full day in which both parents were at home.

They used software to provide an automated analysis of the frequency of adult spoken words to their infant and of parent-infant ‘conversations.’ Findings of the research, published in the Journal of Family Psychology, showed that the more dissatisfied a couple reported their relationship to be, the more the mother spoke to her infant.

Mothers who reported the quality of their relationship to be ‘low’ used around 35 percent more words than a mother whose relationship was ‘average’ and started around 20 percent more conversations.

However, these effects were only found with infant sons, not daughters. The researchers did not analyse the content of the mother-infant talk, so it is not possible to say whether the mother was complaining to her infant or talking positively.

“It’s possible that the mum is trying to compensate for the poor relationship she has with her partner by putting more time and effort into her relationship with her other close male social partner, her son,” says Dr Elian Fink from the Centre for Family Research and the Faculty of Education. “What is particularly interesting is that mums only seem to compensate when they have infant sons, not daughters. It could be that mothers view their daughters as mini versions of themselves rather than of their partners.” Regardless of infant gender, fathers showed significantly less overall talk and initiated fewer conversations than did mothers, even though the fathers are increasingly becoming involved in parenting and the recordings were taken specifically on a day when both parents were at home.

However, the amount that they spoke to their infants was unrelated to the quality of the couple’s relationship. “Even when dads spend more time around their infants, this doesn’t necessarily mean they are interacting with them more,”

Fink said. “One possible reason may be that there’s still an imbalance in who responds to the basic care needs of their infant. So, for example, if it’s the mother who still shoulders the burden of changing the nappy, this at least offers an opportune time to engage in direct communication with her infant.” Fink hopes the findings will encourage parents to make a conscious effort to talk more to their infants, whether they are boys or girls.

“Parent-child interaction is important for a child’s development, with conversation playing a particular role for the child’s language development,” she says. “Finding time to talk to children is very important. Using opportunities within the daily routine, such as mealtimes and bedtime, to have conversations with your child may help foster later child talk.”



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