We were discussing about female virginity yesterday and someone was like the only way to know if a girl is a virgin, is that the girl must bleed during her first sex and am sure that majority have the same mindset, but this is wrong.
Bleeding doesn’t determine if a girl is a virgin or not so I decided to release this article to help educate our young men and women on this issue of girls bleeding during first sex…
THE MYTH ABOUT FEMALE VIRGINITY -There’s a very common myth in South and Central Asia (Pakistan, India, Bangladesh, Afghanistan etc.) and Africa (Nigeria and many other nations ) that a virgin woman must have to bleed.
There is zero truth in this. Not all women bleed the first time they have sex, as I’ll explain in this post. To understand why some women bleed and some don’t, it’s very important to understand what the hymen is. The hymen is a membrane that tends to cover part of the vaginal opening (it does not always block or cover the entire vagina, as some people mistakenly think). NOT ALL WOMEN HAVE A HYMEN.
The hymen also differs from woman to woman; like all women have different heights, weights and features, so does women have different amounts and types of hymen. Some women have thick hymen, some have NO hymen at all, while some others have larger hymen, a proportion of women also naturally have a very little amount of hymen that covers only a small portion of their vaginal opening (and hence does not really get in the way, during first-time sex).
In addition to this, the hymen wears away on its own as you grow up. For most women, the hymen wears away on its own with exercise, bicycling, horseback riding -it can wear off with pretty much any other physical activity, even dancing! – or from using tampons when menstruating. Especially if the hymen is very small or thin, most of it tends to wear away on its own as a girl grows up.
WHY A WOMAN MAY NOT BLEED DURING FIRST INTERCOURSE.
A woman will not bleed
*If she is born WITHOUT a hymen,
*If she has a SMALL or THIN hymen, and is not the FRIGID type(i.e. she lubricates well) and was properly aroused by her partner.
*If her hymen has worn away on its own (which is very common as girls grow up),
The result is that the overwhelming majority -at least 63% of women – will NOT bleed the first time they have sex, according to a study published by the British Medical Journal. Women who do bleed include: – Women with thick hymens (which constitutes a small percentage of the population and are mostly younger girls.
Because the hymen wears away on its own with time, a 16-year old has a higher chance of bleeding than a 25-year old. By the time a girl is of or above the legal age of consent – 18, 20, 24 years of age, for example – most of her hymen is likely to have worn away on its own, meaning bleeding is unlikely.
Most often, women who bleed tend to be women who are dealt with roughly during sex. If the guy forces himself inside the girl, when she isn’t ready, relaxed or aroused enough, he is likely to cause injury or bleeding. Because most people think it’s normal for women to bleed the first time they have sex, they don’t realize that this bleeding is as a result of the woman having been hurt, and not of the hymen breaking.
Painful first-time sex is generally because the woman is not relaxed or aroused enough, and gets hurt as a result; it is rarely ever because of the hymen breaking. The bottom line is that this is not a sure way to assess female virginity. Bleeding has little or nothing to do with virginity, it has to do with the kind of hymen a girl has, and hymens differ from girl to girl from birth.
WHY IS THIS SO IMPORTANT TO BE AWARE OF?
Women all over the world get abused, injured and even killed due to the myth of ‘virgin bleeding.. Because most people (men AND women) think that bleeding is a sign of virginity, women who don’t bleed the first time have been divorced, suffered from suspicion leading to domestic violence and abuse, and even killed for dishonour.
No wonder some ladies virgin or not go to the extent of faking virginity by putting up blood-like streak to confuse gullible men.
Educating people that a girl does not necessarily have to bleed the first time she has sex is important, because some non virgins have been passed off as virgins, haven put off there drama meticulously.
While virgins are accused of not been one, just because they didn’t bleed.
An understanding of this can save LIVES,MARRIAGES,& RELATIONSHIP
BY ALEX NDUBUISI