Oprah Winfrey and Stedman Graham have been dating for 34years without getting married or having children, infact it’s one of the the longest celebrity relationship of all time.
I usually wonder how people could stay that long dating without getting married or perhaps having children until I realized that dating and marriage are two complete different things.
I think why some marriages pack up soon after arrival is cause the couple keep living as they were during their dating days, some people might see marriage as a piece of paper but most folks attach a different ideology to it once the rings are slipped on.
The truth is that if Oprah and Stedman ever had married they won’t stay this long, I mean look at Angelina Jolie n Brad Pitt, 10 years of dating and 2 years of marriage.
I recently read a magazine were she addressed her decision not to get married or have kids and it was an eye opener to me, cause to know someone you’ve to understand their point of view, not everyone is wired for marriage or Parenthood, it’s something many still don’t understand.
Marriage is not a destination, it’s a work in progress. There are bumps in the road that you thought you had left behind long ago, just to stumble over them again.
I don’t believe that marriage should be hard work. I believe that it should be easy most days. But I also know that it’s not all hearts and happiness all the time. Marriage, just like life, will experience challenges, tough times, and heartbreak. Living with ourselves isn’t always easy, so how can living with another person be? We are all flawed human beings trying to do our best but failing regularly.